This week, I am promoting the Natural Fertility bundle sale. The books in this sale are not just for couples struggling with infertility, although I do believe couples who find themselves in that situation would greatly benefit from these resources. Any couple looking to grow their family, naturally or through artificial means, will find a wealth of resources for preparing the body to be a welcoming host for a pregnancy within the pages of these books. It is so important to be feeding and caring for your body the right way when you are planning a pregnancy.
Today I want to share with you a precious story of one couple’s journey to becoming parents. Thanks, Jenn, for being willing to share such a painful time in your life with our readers!
My husband and I were married in 2007. We knew we wanted to start a family immediately, so it was frustrating to say the least that it didn’t happen right away for us. I spent a year monitoring my temperature and documenting my cycles before we consulted my OB. He put me on Clomid for about six months or so, but still nothing. Our second wedding anniversary rolled around and we were still getting bombarded with that dreaded question, “So, when are you two going to start a family?”
You always hear that expression, “Everything happens for a reason.” Well, when you’ve been trying to get pregnant for years, you start questioning what those reasons could possibly be. I prayed like crazy to understand God’s plan for me, “Hey God, I know I am meant to be a mother, so what’s the deal here?!”
When I did some research I discovered that one in seven women would have struggles with infertility at some point in their lives. One in seven… so shouldn’t I know someone else having problems? It sure felt like I was the only one having any difficulty. It seemed like everyone around me was getting pregnant. Everywhere I went, pregnant women were taunting me with their big ol’ bellies.
So at that point, we were three years into the journey, and it wasn’t getting any easier. You become entirely too sensitive to anything baby related. You dread baby showers, and start avoiding pregnant friends. People you know are getting pregnant by “accident”… don’t even get me started on that. Then there’s the barrage of insensitive jokes: “Just get drunk and try the back seat of the car”, and the well-meaning advice: “Just stop worrying about it and it will happen”, which by the way is impossible to do.
My OB referred us to a fertility specialist. Now, I know there is some controversy and debate in regards to fertility treatments (are we interfering with God’s will or are we helping Him help us?), but here is my opinion on the issue: no matter what action you take or don’t take, God has a plan for you. If God doesn’t want something to happen, no amount of money or drugs or human interference is going to make it happen.
So, we went to see the specialist. After more poking and prodding and bloodwork, I was diagnosed with DOR (Diminished Ovarian Reserve), which basically meant, that at 32 years young, I had practically no eggs left (think peri-menopausal). My husband and I tried IUI (Intrauterine Insemination) once and when that didn’t work, we decided to try IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) one time. We told ourselves, okay this is it. We’re only doing this once. So, here is your chance God. If you want it to happen, the time is now. If this is not meant to be, I know You’ll let us know.
And He did. Our IVF didn’t take. Heartbroken to say the least, my husband and I had to trust that this wasn’t our path.
Fast forward to 2013 and we are now the proud parents of an amazing two year old little boy. Adopted at birth at the end of 2010, he is the most perfect child two parents could hope for. Looking at this beautiful gift, everything is clear. So you see, it’s true. Everything does happen for a reason. We made the decision in March of 2010 to adopt, and remarkably, nine and a half months later, our son was born. The “coincidence” is not lost on me that he was conceived when we made the decision to adopt. I firmly believe that he was created for us. In my eyes, he is, and has always been, our son.
Jenn Larrabee was born and raised in San Diego, where she met her husband A.J. after his stint in the Navy. She left her job in project management in 2012 to be at home, where she currently spends her time chasing one beautiful, active little boy. She is working on starting her own business in event planning, because after God and family, parties are her favorite thing.
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